Hump Day: Setting positive goals for success in life should be taught to all

Hump DayHump Day
By Brian Cormier
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Moncton Times & Transcript
Editorial page

Last week, I had the pleasure of seeing and hearing world-renowned speaker Jack Canfield give a presentation here in Moncton. What a thrill it was to hear him talk for several hours about setting goals, the importance of focus and the correct way to express what you want out of life when you’re writing down your objectives.

This is a man who has appeared in the worldwide phenomenon movie The Secret. He’s also been on Oprah, Larry King Live, Good Morning America, 20/20 and The Montel Williams Show. What impressed me so much, as well, was how accessible he was – friendly and genuine with everyone he met.

After selling 500 million books around the world, he’s rich, he’s famous and he’s respected. I mean, what else does he have to prove? When he talks, people listen.

I was impressed by Ray and Charline Hebert, two Dieppe entrepreneurs with Nufocus Group who took their teenage daughters with them to the Canfield event. Charline told me the two girls were able to get time off school to attend the seminar because it was an educational outing. Now that’s forward thinking! I wish every parent had taken their children to hear Mr. Canfield speak.

The importance of setting goals, affirmations and creating your own future is one huge missing link in our school system.

The Hebert girls now have had an opportunity that few other teenagers in Moncton have had: to see and hear one of the world’s most foremost personal development speakers.

It goes without saying that what Mr. Canfield spoke about last week is not in most teenagers’ iPods. It’s not violent rap music or mindless pop tunes of questionable redeeming value.

This was information on how to build your life; on how you can be and do anything you set your mind to. It was practical information on how to properly set goals for yourself.

This is not a criticism of the provincial education system. I don’t think anyone in the world is learning this in school. Can you imagine if the youth in this province had access to even one hour per week to the world’s foremost personal development speakers who could help teach them how to set goals? It is one of the key missing links, I believe, in the worldwide education system.

People fall so easily into negative thinking. Many times, when we have a dream there are people just waiting in the wings to shoot us down. There are vicious and anonymous Internet comments left on perfectly nice stories that just leave a person shaking their head. I swear, if there was a story about a puppy saving a kitten from a fire, there would be 10 negative comments below the online story from cat haters wondering why the puppy even bothered to risk his life over a stupid kitten. Stories about tragic accidents are littered with anonymous comment about how the victims likely deserved it because they were drinking (whether it’s true or not).

I’m not trying to be holier than thou. I, too, once fell into the addictive trap of leaving the occasional anonymous negative comment here and there. Even though I’ve been reformed of this vicious habit for a long time, it pains me to see the disappearance of “the line of decency” that people once would not cross.

My friend Martin Latulippe also spoke during the Jack Canfield presentation about how there is a “DK” around every corner. There are DKs when you apply for a job. There are DKs when you mention to friends that you want to open your own business.

The DK – or ‘Dream Killer’ – lurks behind every tree. Many DKs have taken on their mission as full-time jobs to keep others down so that they may feel better about themselves. After all, if a DK can keep you from being successful by convincing you not to move forward with your goals or dreams, they feel better about themselves. They feel better about not achieving their own goals. They feel better about their rut.

Remember, when you meet a DK and they dump their garbage thoughts on you, it’s not about you. It’s all about them. All! Every last bit. Every iota. And yeah, I’ve done it, too. We all get caught in those negative-thinking traps. Awareness is key.

Setting goals, positive thinking, learning to keep going through adversity, how to respond to criticism . . . these are things I dearly wish our young people would be taught at an early age. How different would our world be if each student in Canada went through a personal development and goal-setting course taught by a certified success coach before they started high school and another one just before they graduated?

I’m not talking about a trip to the guidance counsellor, which is helpful to many students, I’m sure. I’m talking about an intense semester of learning life and leadership skills, how to write affirmations, learning how to visualize, set goals and other positive life management tools that will stick with them the rest of their lives.

As the late success coach Jim Rohn once said, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” With graduation soon upon us, I urge each and every graduate out there to heed that advice.

Take a goal-setting course or get yourself a success coach as soon as possible. It’s an investment you won’t regret.

4 Responses to Hump Day: Setting positive goals for success in life should be taught to all

  1. Very well written, Brian and I’m left with the impulse to hire you to go into the school system to offer your services. I know this will someday be offered and think that you would be a wonderful example of proof of the Law of Attraction (and willpower’s) existence.

    I trust that you’ve set many new goals and have already taken steps to achieve them but know you’ve been very successful in doing what you love already.

  2. Hi Brian, I can’t thank you enough for your comments. Great article and fantastic advice. I too would like to see this kind of thing being offered to teens. It seems to me we don’t offer our teens enough skills to dream and succeed unless they have GREAT parents. Thank you for your artlices.
    Mary