Hump Day: Resolutions put a positive spin on the new year

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By Brian Cormier
Wednesday, Jan. 2, 2013
Moncton Times & Transcript
Editorial section

Happy New Year! I trust you all survived the holidays in one piece. As for me, it was a very nice break after a hectic and eventful year!

Now’s the time for setting resolutions and finding newfound determination to make 2013 the best that it can be. The changing of the calendar is a perfect opportunity to get rid of what isn’t working and create some new habits.

Some say that making resolutions is bad because you’re just dooming yourself to failure. I reject that theory. Simply by the act of trying to make a change, at least you’re thinking positively. I think that’s worth something! And even if you fail at most resolutions, you’ll succeed at some. If you dangle enough hooks in the pond, you’re bound to catch a few fish!

I’m so happy we have that Mayan calendar nonsense behind us. It seems like the entire last quarter of 2012 was overtaken by stories about how the world was going to end. Social media outlets were inundated with comments about the supposed end of everything as we know it. Even normally sane friends seemed quite anxious that the mushroom cloud was coming any minute.

These end-of-the-world warnings seem to happen every few years. They drive me crazy and are nothing more than crazy superstitions brought on my misinterpreting badly translated or completely misunderstood writings made thousands of years ago. Instead of worrying about the end of the world, why not start a new world — at least a new world of your own by getting out and meeting new people, getting healthy, earning more money, enhancing relationships and making others happy.

I hope 2013 doesn’t end up being a year filled with superstition about how “13” is an unlucky number. We’ll be hearing all year about how it’s going to be the worst year ever and that we’d better hide from everything or pay the price! I can already hear it now. People seem to want to find a reason to be miserable.

Take all that “unlucky 13” garbage that’s bound to overtake the airwaves in the coming weeks and months and flush it down the toilet along with everything else that belongs in a sewer. It only affects you if you believe it – and don’t believe a word of it because it’s complete and utter nonsense.

A year is what we make of it. Period. Even if bad things happen to us or to those around us, we can choose how we react. People will become millionaires this year. Why not you? People will turn their health around this year. Why not you? People will get their dream job this year. Why not you? People will start their own successful business this year. Why not you? People will meet the person they’re going to spend the rest of their life with this year. Why not you?

That’s a pretty heavy question, actually. Actually, why not you? Because the 13 in 2013 is unlucky? “Sorry, boss. I wasn’t able to get that critical report finished because, well, it’s 2013 and everyone knows that the number 13 is unlucky. It’s the fault of the entire year. Yeah, that’s it. The entire year. Oh, I’m fired? Well, it’s 13’s fault, not mine.”

I’m a fan of writer and speaker Jack Canfield. His top advice for becoming successful is simple. In fact, it’s so simple that it’s scary. Take 100-per-cent responsibility for your life. Stop the blame game. Taking full responsibility is, in fact, quite empowering once you figure out it’s not your boss’s fault that you’re miserable in your career and it’s not the bakery’s fault that you need to lose weight – and that it’s not your credit card’s fault that it keeps getting used and not paid off.

Mr. Canfield writes, “If you need just one thing to do different today than you did yesterday, make it this: Commit to taking 100-per-cent responsibility for every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it’s much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!”

It’s not a cliché. Of course, it’s a gradual process. You can’t be a victim one day who’s supposedly affected by everything around you and then turn into an accomplishing go-getter who fears nothing within 24 hours. Well, maybe you can, but it’s realistically more of a gradual process. The more you believe and see how taking responsibility is actually quite empowering, then you’ll see dramatic changes in the areas in which you concentrate, be they finances, relationships, health or career.

Reject playing the victim this year. Reject external causes to your unhappiness. Reject finger pointing. Reject sitting back and letting the world take shots at you and your happiness. You’re the boss. You write the rules. You steer the boat.

I’ve always found new years so exciting. There’s so much hope… so much unknown… so much wonder. Don’t let the Negative Nellies influence you in 2013. When they start paying your bills, then they can start telling you what to do!

If we consider the days in 2013 as the pages in a book, we see that it has 365 pages. We can leave them blank, ignore them or take a pen and write our own story. Just make sure the story is in your own handwriting and not someone else’s. Whether we like it or not, come December 31, the book will be written. Written about what? Written by whom? That’s up to you to decide, because “2013 – The Novel” is all about you!

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